When it comes to monogamy, many women ask themselves, are they a Charlotte or a Samantha? Do they feel inclined to be with just one person or not? It's always been a hotly debated topic if monogamy or polygamy was the natural state for humans. Now, according to a new scientific study, apparently it’s natural either way.
The study suggests that people are split up into two groups: those looking for love and a long-term commitment, and those who just seek more casual encounters. Men and women fit into each category, although researchers found there were more men in the casual encounters group.
This could explain why there are variations in the way people in different cultures behave sexually. Some people stay with that one person for life, while others may have numerous partners in a week. Then there’s other cultural differences such as unique romance situations, like men who have many wives or a woman who marries two brothers. But although there can be vast extremities, scientists believe that most fit somewhere in the middle.
In order to find out if monogamy and polygamy were both natural for humans, scientists had to analyze data from 600 British and American men and women. They examined how people engaged in casual sex, short-term affairs and faithfulness. In all, there were really two groups formed: monogamists and polygamists.
"When we looked at the data, it has this very weird shape," said Rafael Wlodarski, an experimental psychologist at the University of Oxford in England. "Rather than it being a whole gamut of mating strategies, there seems to be two potential phenotypes within males and within females."
The researchers figured that cultural variables might come into play, such as upbringing or the availability of birth control but Wlodarski thinks it would be interesting to see what could found within different cultural groups.
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Not sure how to keep the spark alive with fun and new date ideas? Get your nerd on! If you and your man are self-proclaimed "geeky lovers," you’ll love these date night ideas where you can keep the romance but let your nerd side out running wild!
There’s no need to stick with the typical romantic dinner, staring into each other’s eyes while feeding each other strawberries. Get creative with these nerdy ideas!
Medieval dinner: Stay at home and cook up a meal medieval-style! Make chicken or ribs, soup, sides and dessert and eat with just your hands, no silverware!
Geek trivia night: Invite your fellow geeky lovers over for a geek trivia game night.
Plan a nerdy trip: Plan a nerdy (and romantic) getaway to LEGOLAND, go on a Walking Dead tour, Hobbiton tour and more.
Geek movie night: Stay in, enjoy each other’s company and watch your favorite geeky movies like The Matrix or have a Lord of the Rings movie marathon.
Game night: Enjoy dinner, romance and some games to woo your nerdy partner. Go crazy with video games or board games, like the new Game of Thrones board game.
Role play: At the end of the evening, if your man’s ever had the Princess Leia fantasy (all men have, trust us), go ahead and fulfill that tonight!
Go retro: Head to a roller rink, grab some pizza and have some retro fun. Don’t forget to wear spandex!
Planetarium: Create your own planetarium in your home by using glow-in-the-dark stars on the ceilings or buy a lamp that glows stars and moons around the room.
Cocktails and karaoke: Down a little liquid courage and sing some duets!
Photography: Go for a romantic walk in the woods or at a forest preserve, and take some snapshots of nature.
Times are changing and some of the classic marriage "rules," like the man is supposed to be the financial provider and now that you’re married, life is all about hubby and the kids, are pretty outdated...
Of course, it’s still okay to maintain some of the old-fashioned ways if you’d like. Who doesn't like having the door opened for them or being taken care of on a date night? Man or woman, it's a nice gesture to happen to you.
Still, there are some "marriage rules" that just no longer apply to tying the knot. And they are...
Did you know you can get sad once sex is over? Or that it can actually relieve pain?Understanding how intercourse affects the mind can help you learn more about yourself, your health and even how to improve the deed between the sheets.
Sex makes us feel good. We want it, we enjoy it and that’s why we enjoy seeking out others to well, do it! We get pleasure from sex, mainly due to dopamine (a neurotransmitter that activates the reward center of the brain) being released during the act. This same chemical contributes to one feeling high when on drugs.
Are you sad? Get busy! An interesting study by the University of Albany in 2002 took 300 women and discovered that those who had sex without a condom had less depressive symptoms than those who did use protection. Researchers theorized that various compounds in semen, like estrogen and prostaglandin, have antidepressant properties.
You may be happy and enjoying yourself during the act, but what about once it’s over? Well, post-sex blues are real and about one-third of women in a study reported having experienced this.
Women always use the excuse they have a headache to get out of sex. Well, don’t! Sex can relieve symptoms of a headache and other pain.
Global transient amnesia is a sudden but temporary loss of memory that can be brought on by vigorous sex. It can last a few minutes or a few hours.
Well, if you’re a rodent. A 2010 study found that rodents who engaged in sex once a day for 14 days grew more neurons in the hippocampus, a region of the brain associated with memory.
Sex can help you relax, de-stress and even lower your blood pressure.
Sex is more likely to make men sleepy than women due to the part of the brain, the prefrontal cortex, which winds down after ejaculation.
A recent story about how wives can keep their husbands happy has gone viral, with more than 6 million page views to date!
The article title "5 Ways You Are Unknowingly Destroying Your Husband and Killing Your Marriage," was published on FamilyShare.com and has racked up millions of views and shares.
The story, published by author Katelyn Carmen, lists the common reasons that women can unwittingly destroy a marriage, and while she does state that the story is geared towards women she also notes that the same advice applies to men too.
In the story Carmen states: "Don't let the small stuff ruin the things that will bring you the greatest happiness in life."
Some of the common pitfalls for destroying a marriage, according the the author, include living beyond your means... well your husband's means to be exact. Carmen believes taking care of finances is one of the secrets to a happy marriage.
"The best thing you can do as a wife is to live within your husband's means," she says.
The author goes on to say: "Wives, show sincere appreciation and respect to your husband by carefully following a budget and making the most of what you have. Be wise about your finances."
Constant negativity also lists as a reason you could be destroying your marriage. While the author suggests it's fine to have a bad day every once in a while, dumping every negative thought that has happened throughout your day is draining.
"Men like to fix things, and constantly being hounded with complaints makes it difficult for him to help solve your pains."
Carmen also believes that wives not speaking their mind or remaining coy about their feelings can lead to unhappiness in a marriage.
"Don’t waste your time giving subtle hints that he won’t understand: Speak plainly to him. Be honest about your feelings, and don’t bottle things up until you burst. If he asks you what’s wrong, don’t respond with 'nothing' and then expect him to read your mind and emotions."
Other reasons listed for unwittingly destroying marriage include not putting your spouse first and withholding sex.
The article has clearly struck a chord with many thanks to its viral status, and many readers have taken to social media to either criticize or praise the author on these tips.
ooh, I got this! http://t.co/yf5srWrr3K 1. Poison 2. Knives 3. Hammer 2 the head 4. Suffocation 5. Stab him w/knives & THEN feed him poison— Megan Rosati (@meganrosati) December 11, 2014
you guys want to see the worst stuff ever written? http://t.co/AVFIupjHD1— Carol (@doguacate) December 11, 2014
Great article and my wife has been living this for years...thanks babe! http://t.co/q34MH4AZMj— Ron Snyder (@RonSnyder919) December 12, 2014
Wow. Insightful read, ladies: http://t.co/R36hjZ9n4O— Melanie Allison (@RareBirdMelanie) December 11, 2014
I want to live in a world where women are not inferior to men, and are not objectified as a property or a right... http://t.co/Me5Zp8bz6e— MARY (@itsmaryward) December 11, 2014
Much of the criticism relates to the fact that the story is written about how wives should please their husbands rather than the other way around. However, the author does state at the top of the piece that the advice is applicable to both men and women.
What do you think about Carmen's advice?